"Seeing" things a little differently
When we are young, we don’t think too much about our futures. We live in the moment, guided by our family. We are content living day by day.
As we grow older, we slowly begin considering what we would like our futures to be like. I had aspirations to become a singer, dancer and actress. I knew this would be impossible because to be a movie star, you had to be beautiful.
I was born with a birth defect on my eye, I knew I would be very limited on my choice of careers, but I could always dream!
In high school, I tried out for the cheerleading squad because I wanted to dance and perform, it was in my blood! I was not very popular in high school, everyone remembered me as the “sweet little cheerleader”.
After graduation I became a hairstylist. I enjoyed learning about make up and hairstyles, I was pretty good at it too! I found it difficult to find a job and build a clientel. You would be surprised how people judge you by your appearance.
My life changed again by getting married and having a family. I opened a dance studio and taught clogging for seventeen years. It was a thriving business and we performed all over the Southeast delighting audiences everywhere. We even danced on the Grand Ole Opry. So, I actually did become a dancer!
At the age of forty there was another change in my life called a divorce. After being married for twenty-one years it was quite a transition to be single again with two teenage daughters. The next ten years ended up being a difficult but growing period in my life.
Currently, I am fifty-one years old. My daughters are grown and experiencing their own changes.
I’ve had surgeries to correct my birth defect and I no longer feel embarrassed when around others. I have a friend that is in the final stages of cancer, my oldest daughter will be moving four hours away soon, my parents are aging and my job that was once challenging for me has become monotonous.
The older I get, the faster the changes are happening. I feel like just grabbing the clock of life and putting it on pause for a while.
Change can be a choice that we make or something we have no control over. One thing is for certain, change WILL happen. Be ready for it, relish in the time frame you are in now because right around the corner is another change getting ready to happen.
It’s the circle of life always rotating. I look in my grandchildren’s eyes and pray that their lives are balanced and they see their dreams come alive. if their lives are not exactly like they’ve dreamed it would be, I pray that they have the capability to handle what life throws at them.
What phase of life are you in right now?
If you are in a valley and you are not happy, use this time to develop any goals, desires or skills you have. Be patient, the time for change is coming.
If you are on the mountaintop with pleasant abundance, don’t forget to be grateful and enjoy every second, for change is coming.
Always grow and move forward…..don’t become stuck in a rut wasting valuable time, change is coming!
Whenever I think of change it reminds me of a song by Jimmy Buffett, the chorus reads as follows,
These changes in latitudes, changes in attitudes
Nothing remains quite the same
Through all of the islands and all of the highlands
If we couldn’t laugh we would all go insane