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Scatter Joy!

Below is a post I wrote while visiting my friend just four days ago that has been battling cancer for years. I held it in a draft because I was not ready to publish it. Three days after writing it, my friend passed away peacefully. I will miss her terribly.

As I lay here in the dark guest room of my dear friends home trying to get some sleep, my mind is racing with thoughts about my future., the past memories that we’ve shared since high school and what the next few weeks will be like for her.

You see, my friend is dying of cancer….

I first met her in the third grade of elementary school forty-one years ago but it wasn’t until high school that we became close friends. We were cheerleaders together, spent a lot of time talking and laughing about stupid stuff and trying to figure out life together.

Cancer entered into her life fifteen years ago. It was her greatest fear and she was forced to face it head on. She aggressively fought the battle with surgeries, chemo and diet.

When she was diagnosed with this disease she was working as an airline attendant. The world was her stage and her beauty (inside and out) touched everyone she met.

For all the years I’ve known her she has searched for the true meaning of God, spirituality and many different religious views. Her high intelligence forced her to try to make sense of life and the reason for us being on this planet. Slowly, year after year, cancer continued to spread. In between treatments, she traveled the world, read hundreds of books and lived a good life.

My friend has the dearest, sweetest soul imaginable and through her journey, found a way to touch everyone she knew by her frank honesty and innocence of life. She made us all look at the meaning of life through her inquisitive discussions and views.

She fought and faced her greatest fear….she has meticulously planned every detail of her passing and she is saying her goodbyes.

When I walked into her room to visit her today it took my breath away to see how much she has physically regressed. I had just been with her eight weeks ago and the changes were evident.

Spending time with my friend of forty years is something I will never forget. She is still giving me gifts of joy and love to me and everyone else in contact with her. There will always be questions that we cannot answer and soon she will have all the answers that she craves.

My friend told me years ago that one of her mottos in life is to “scatter joy” which was penned by Emerson. She said “No matter where you are, no matter how large or small the deed, always scatter joy along your path to others.

Facing death of someone close to us forces us to think about our own lives. It gives us a different perspective of the things that really matter. Most people walk around in a rushed frenzy trying to get more money, fancier car, bigger house or nicer clothes.

People… can’t take it with you! Live your lives to the fullest, don’t join in the rat race wasting time on unimportant things.



10 comments on “Scatter Joy!

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  2. digitaldivaducky
    April 21, 2012

    Thanks for your words…can only say I am dealing with the same issues. Thank you for allowing me to link the ode to my “best-ie”, My Sweetest Thing to your tribute to your “best-ie’s” zest for life and ultimate passing. We, the BFF’s left behind, have to honor the memories, love and strength that we were lucky enough to have been touch by. May be both find peace in this time of grief. Scatter joy and I will savor my sweetest thing. ❤ Deena

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  4. nikky44
    March 24, 2012

    What a wonderful post!!! And your friend is a wonderful person!. I use the present tense, same as I do when I talk about my mother who died of cancer 10 years ago. Mum is still here with us, so is your friend because people who know how to live, never die.

    • sherrylcook
      March 24, 2012

      Nicole, That has touched me soooo profoundly…….It sort of hit me shen I read the words “People who live never die”. You see, my friend and I had a deal, after she passed, she was going to give me a message , ifshe could, that there really is a heaven, or afterlife or what ever. its been a constant discussion between us.

      I’m going to use those words at her “celebration of life” next week. Thank you.. (my friend had arrangedher celebration party long ago, we’re having pizza, beer and wine, no black allowed, must wear something festive….)

      Blessings to you! Sherry

      • nikky44
        March 24, 2012

        Your friend is exactly like my mum. She did the same, told each one of us what she expected from us, no black allowed, smiles and joy are what she wanted. Her last words were :” I am cured, I’m finally cured”.
        Stay strong, and celebrate her life, that’s what she wants, as that’s what she is doing now “celebrating”.
        Much love ❤

  5. brendamarroy
    March 24, 2012

    What a lovely tribute to your friend. I just wrote a tribute to my beloved cat, who I had to put to sleep this week.

    I believe writing a tribute is a way of saying thank you, you have honored me along the way, and I love you and will never forget the impact you had on my life.

    Beautiful words. Thank you.

  6. intuitiveone
    March 23, 2012

    sorry about your friend. This is a beautiful tribute to your friend.

  7. kas1017
    March 23, 2012

    So sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. What a beautifully written blog about her. Hugs to you.

    • sherrylcook
      March 23, 2012

      Thank you Kas…..I will miss her terribly but will scatter joy in her honor.

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