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True Love, fact or fiction?

First of all…..lets define what “true love” means.

according to the urban dictionary, true love means……Love is the greatest gift God ever gave man. Love is not wanting to go anywhere without her. Love is not caring what other people think about the two of you. Love is when you feel depressed and sickly when you’re not with her. You feel like your life has no meaning or purpose without her. And that if she wasn’t holding your hand you would float away to heaven from where she came. Love is caring for her physically and emotionally. It’s telling her everyday, anytime, anywhere, anyhow, for no just reason that you love her. Love is telling her u want to spend the rest of your life with her.

Ok, this goes on and on but I think you get the picture.

Another meaning here….. To define true love, would be to ruin its purity, therefore, It has no definition.

or maybe this one……when you would give up your whole world, give up your life, your everything just to make sure that person you love is ok

This is such a huge subject, let’s narrow this down some. I’m not talking about the grand love that all people should love one another or the kind of love a parent has for their child.

I’m talking about your spouse or one true love. The guy or girl that you want to spend the rest of your life with kind of love.

If you are lucky enough to think you might have found true love, then congratulations to you!


Is true love fact or fiction?

When we are “in” love we believe it’s a fact, but when we experience a breakup or divorce we wonder if maybe we just thought it was true love. We begin to doubt.

we’ve all heard the quote

It’s better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.   “Lord Tennyson”

Is it? Is it better to navigate your world around one person for however long, whether it’s one year or twenty years or longer? Everyone who has ever been in love has made an inner decision to trust that their significant other will always be there for them. Through thick and thin, sickness and health, till death do us part.

Or…. till they just “decide” they don’t love you anymore and they are ready to move on.
If the relationship fails, was it “true love?”
Is there really such a thing or is it just a shot in the dark that we take and hope that the partner we choose is as serious about us as we are about them?

So many questions and not enough answers.

What happened to commitment?

When things get difficult in a relationship you are supposed to stay and work it out, to do what is necessary to fix the problem.

People have a tendency to think that the grass is always greener on the other side. That if things go wrong within the relationship they can just move on and start over. What does that do to the other half of the partnership that wanted to work it out? They are left to pick up the pieces through no fault of their own.

Another point of view would be, would you really want your partner to stay with you just because at one time he felt as though it was true love but now he knows it’s not?     Is that really being fair to either person? To stay with them even when  your heart is just not in it?

.Knowledge can last, principles can last, habits can last; but feelings come and go.     #CSLewis

So what is the answer here?  Is there even an answer at all?   

Never rely on someone else for your own happiness.  Find that happiness within yourself, then when others disappoint you,  you are not dependent on them for your own happiness.  


Let me hear from you,  do you believe in true love? 

Would you still believe in true love if your significant other suddenly just wanted out?

Do you think love lasts forever or is it fleeting?

Would you stay in a relationship just because you should and it was a committment you made even though you didn’t want to?


I want to hear your thoughts on this!


7 comments on “True Love, fact or fiction?

  1. frankoshanko
    May 14, 2012

    Wow Sherry, what a post! I don’t know the answers. I know I still hope for that kind of love. I know I thought I had it before, but her love seemed to end (?). I totally agree with your position on working towards inner happiness. I want to be happy no matter what, and now I am. If I get “true” love, I’m guessing I’ll be even happier! I love your post and I’m convinced that many people opt out very easy and that we shouldn’t settle for an okay relationship. My therapist says be careful who you fall in love with, find out who you are, be the best version of you, and then you’ll be much more likely to find someone with whom a healthy, loving, lasting relationship is possible. I trust her, and I’m enjoying the mean time! ( :

    • sherrylcook
      May 15, 2012

      Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Good for you! It seems to me that if you are realistic, True love may not be possible, considering feelings, emotions and never knowing what your partner is thinking. BUT…..I still want to believe that it exists and can last forever if both parties are in agreement with sticking it out together.

  2. nikky44
    May 14, 2012

    I say that true love exist, but not in the context of a relationship. True love is any kind of love that is unconditional. It can be your love for parents, for your children, for friends or the whole universe.

    • sherrylcook
      May 14, 2012

      I agree with you on that, this particular post is specifically geared for that “soul mate” type of love.

  3. coachcrystalspadawan
    May 14, 2012

    Wow… deep thoughts and good questions, but being a dude, I am so out of my league here, but like a guy, even knowing that, I will throw in my own two cents…lol

    Isnt love caused by drugs in your brain… dopamine and serotonin, specifically? So you actually make your own love. lol,

    • sherrylcook
      May 14, 2012

      lol, just like a man to say something like that!!! So if we make our own love out of the chemicals in our brain then our perception of love is totally out of whack!!! lol

      • coachcrystalspadawan
        May 14, 2012

        or maybe, if we could harness our brain chemicals through sheer wilpower, we could make love as we want it…
        “I love vegetables…” ok, now I am just being silly, lol

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