"Seeing" things a little differently
Most adults my age ( lets just say…thirty and above ) have experienced or know someone who has entered into “another” relationship because of some unforeseen circumstance that caused their first serious relationship to end.
When two people meet and discover each other, they learn about the others beliefs, character and past experiences. In time, they begin to understand how their past will influence their actions and reactions to current situations.
There is an attraction which draws them together, they keep learning and discovering each other. Past circumstances from both of their lives will sneak out from time to time no matter how deep each has tried to hide these traits.
Some of the emotions that may cause us to react differently are:
Anger or hurt from a past relationship.
Sadness or humility from a tragic accident.
Low self esteem or fear from abuse or neglect.
Remorse or guilt from making a terrible mistake.
Whatever the emotion or past issues, we must change the negative into a positive. By doing this we can continue to nurture the emotion that was broken in the past and let it live through a positive outcome.
Sounds easy doesn’t it? Just when you think you are over whatever it was that got you down in the first place then WHAM! your past will rear its ugly head and look you straight in the eyes. How will you deal? One thing is for sure, don’t fall into the trap of making the same mistake twice.
The statistics for failed second marriages is 60% while failed third marriages is 73% read more on this subject here. Information on Divorce Rate Statistics
If you want your second marriage or committed relationship to work, read more from the experts here Making Your Second Marriage Work – iVillage
What do you think? Can we let go of our past failures and hurts to truly open ourselves up again for a successful relationship?
Feel free to share your experiences and let us know if it worked for you and how you made it work. enquiring minds want to know!