"Seeing" things a little differently
This is the second part of a message to my daughters and their husbands on the subject of marriage, read the first part here. http://wp.me/p2dM7J-qa
You married my daughter, God bless you! You are a part of our family and just because my daughters love you…I do too!
I am definitely not an expert on the subject of marriage but I am a woman and I have been married. That alone gives me enough wisdom and experience to pass on a few bits of advice to keep your wife (my daughters) happy and satisfied.
It all boils down to respect. If you respect your wife, then it will show in everything you do and say. More importantly, if she respects you the love will continue to grow.
Once you start losing her respect (even with little things such as temper tantrums, belittling, rude comments, dishonesty, laziness, addictions, etc. ) It’s very hard to gain the respect back.
Love her unconditionally – this is a hard one because relationships are usually very
conditional. Lets not call this a relationship but “relating.” It is an assiduous committment that both of you have entered into.
Keep it exciting! Don’t get stuck in a routine, take time out to do fun things together. Try new activities, hobbies or sports. Turn off the TV and spend some quality time together.
Women LOVE surprises! Any kind will do, little or big. It doesn’t matter if you spent weeks planning it or thought of it five minutes ago. We like to know you are thinking about us even when we are apart. Flowers, dinner, picnics, activities…just surprise us!!!!
If a woman has to ask her man if she looks o.k. it is already too late to give her a compliment. If she’s looking good, tell her. It will mean the world to her.
Share your feelings with her. You don’t have to pretend that you are the tough guy that never shows emotions. Talk about your life together with her.
Understand that from time to time, we women can get a little emotional about things. It’s in our nature. All you need to do is stop, listen to us and understand. Spend some time with us and show that you care about her feelings.
Stay honest and true to her, once it is gone you can never get that back. She will know if you are not honest eventually and the respect is gone.
It’s so easy guys! If you continue to work on your “relating” skills, no matter how long you’ve been together, you will be rewarded with a long-lasting, happy “relating” partnership for a life time.
Please take good care of my daughters for they are my life and my heart.
Law Love : )