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My biggest flaw?  Are you kidding?

Seriously now, in response to

Daily Prompt: Flawed

I must say I have a few.  We are human and that is what humans are…We are flawed.  In my case personally, I am flawed in the area of being too trusting of others or as some might say…naive.  I tend to believe everything that others tell me.

Having said that…The BIGGEST flaw that I was born with is a birth defect called congenital coloboma which affected my eyes.  Dealing with no vision in the right eye and near-sighted in the left (20/70), glaucoma and an abnormality that looked terrible on the blind eye I guess you could say I was flawed physically.

Growing up as a child with a deformity on my face played a huge part in my life.  Every person that I met or came in contact with either asked a lot of questions. stared or said something very ugly.  As I grew older I went through several different stages…from being very shy and introverted, sad, the “why me” stage, “I don’t care” stage, “pretend it’s not there” stage and finally acceptance.

I realized at a very young age that this is who I am and I will not waste one more minute letting this bum eye define who I am…(although it ended up defining me more than I would have ever imagined.)

The stories are endless of how I coped, how friends and strangers reacted to me and how I struggled to live my life accordingly.  I’ve learned so many lessons living this life of mine, my thoughts and the way I view this world had a big effect on me.

As fate would have it, just two short years ago I met a wonderful surgeon that wanted to help me. I went through what I like to call, my year of transformation.  Three surgeries and a beautiful artificial eye later you can’t even tell anything was ever wrong.

I am fifty-two years old and I have just begun my new life as a “normal” person like most of you.   I have written my memoirs titled “A blind eye’s view” which will be published soon and I am determined to help others who may be going through similar circumstances.  So dear readers just know… If you have a flaw…it may really be a forte in disguise.  Use your flaws for the good.

Am I flawed?  Yes…in many ways, but the biggest flaw is now gone and I am forever grateful and loving my life…

laying on stomach edited


11 comments on “Flawed

  1. Mridula
    December 14, 2012

    I don’t know where my earlier comment had gone….All I wanted to say U is this – U R NOT AT ALL FLAWED…..U are a wonderful person, God bless U

  2. Mridula
    December 14, 2012

    Dear, when I went through this I imagines and understood to a great extent what all you might have gone through….And I believe you are not at all flawed …you are a wonderful person…a gift ….to the people around you, god bless U 🙂

    • sherrylcook
      December 14, 2012

      Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words. Because of my pain and childhood humiliations I can now fully appreciate this wonderful “second” opportunity at now helping others.

  3. butimbeautiful
    December 14, 2012

    That’s an interesting story. I can relate a little – I grew up with cataracts – but they weren’t disfiguring and I can imagine your experience was really hard to cope with at times. I’m glad you finally got through it all, and I look forward to the book.

  4. seeker
    December 14, 2012

    Good for you for using in a positive way.

    • sherrylcook
      December 14, 2012

      Thank you…. Something we really need in this crazy world… More positive influences like you and I . Thanks for visiting!

  5. GiggsMcGill Jill
    December 13, 2012

    That’s a beautiful way to look at it, “it may really be a forte in disguise”. I’m glad that you were able to have the surgeries, and are now so happy with your life!

    • sherrylcook
      December 13, 2012

      Thank you Giggs or Jill?
      I’ve wandered around all of my life playing this thing called life. Wondering the inevitable “why me?” But fast forward to the present and I can see all the pieces of the puzzle finally coming together. I always knew there was a higher plan but didn’t know what.
      Thank you for your kind thoughts and visiting my blog. I will be visiting you as we’ll!

  6. diannegray
    December 13, 2012

    This post made me a bit misty, Sherry! You are such a brave lady. I can’t imagine what your younger life would have been like because children can be so very cruel at times. A facial flaw is very difficult to hide. I’m so happy that you found such a wonderful surgeon. I know people say “love me as I am” etc. but they’re usually the people who don’t have to live day to day with stares and whispers. My husband lost his left eye almost twenty years ago after an accident and his face was very scarred – but after the great work of a group of wonderful doctors you wouldn’t know it to look at him now 😀

    • sherrylcook
      December 13, 2012

      Ahhhh Dianne… You have such a good insight into the real meaning of compassion. I wasn’t brave really, I just didn’t have a choice. I endured every second of the stares and questions… Plus being near sighted.
      Around the age of 9 or 10 I did make a choice after going through so many emotions. It was the choice to live or crumble under the pressure… I chose to live.
      My life was still a roller coaster but essentially I was a positive person. Tell your hubby congrats… It is amazing what can be done medically!

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