"Seeing" things a little differently
Every day we are going through our own transformations. We seek out changes in our lives that we choose to improve on. Our minds and souls crave creativity and challenges.
Sure, there may be times in your life that you feel complacent, routine, tired and just wanting things to stay the same because you are comfortable, but our inner spirit grabs us from time to time and places something inside of us called “passion.” Your passion is an overwhelming desire to do anything you are wanting…i.e. Write, paint, start a new business, change a habit, go on a trip, the examples are endless.
Thus…we begin the transformational process. A real transformational process usually follows a stage of regression,(routine, complacent or mediocre. )
Statistics show that people who are in the process of trans-formal change will progress forward initially. As change begins to occur we tend to regress and continue in a zigzag pattern as show below…
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The highest points are our increases towards achieving our desires. The low points are a series of proven behaviors that we experience during any transformational process.
After an initial increase of 15% progress towards our newest changes we will begin to see a natural decrease due to
1. introspection. means an observation or examination of one’s own mental and emotional state. The act of looking within oneself.
This is where a lot of doubt will come into play, we underestimate ourselves and wonder if we can really succeed in our new transformation.
Working through number one will lead you into another increase towards your changes. You will begin to experience a new-found confidence in your work. Don’t stop here! Continue to grow and seek out the new.
Our next stumbling block can be…
2. Fear of failure Disappointment in one’s self if things don’t work out. We set limits and feel inadequate.
We need to begin work on our mindset. Only let the positive thoughts inside and concentrate on the journey of fulfilling your desires. Do not even entertain the thought that failure is an option. There is no such thing as failure if we grow and learn. Working through this lesson is the most productive of all and you are well on your way! Now you will experience a period of forward movement that you can feel and enjoy.
3. Fear of success –
People who have experienced trauma may associate the excitement of success with the same physiological reactions as trauma. They avoid subjecting themselves to excitement-inducing circumstances, which causes them to be almost phobic about success.
There is another layer to the fear of success. Many of us have been conditioned to believe that the road to success involves risks such as “getting one’s hopes up” – which threatens to lead to disappointment. And many of us-especially if we’ve been subject to verbal abuse-have been told we were losers our whole lives, in one way or another. We have internalized that feedback and feel that we don’t deserve success. Even those of us who were not abused or otherwise traumatized often associate success with uncomfortable things such as competition and its evil twin, envy.
“The key to managing these regressions lies in increased self-awareness. As the growth goal increases, awareness and self-consciousness must deepen in order to manage the regressive trends that occur. These trends include moving beyond one’s illusions about oneself and one’s potential; moving beyond the defenses that protect the self from the anxieties of growth; examining and resolving the ambivalence that prevents a total commitment to achieving one’s vision; embracing fears and terrors associated with failure and success including shame and abandonment; and, ultimately, discovering one’s will – an energy source that can fuel the activation and achievement of any vision.” ~CDM~
CDM – Creative Dimensions in Management
We’ve all lived through transformational changes whether you realize it or not. Some of these may have been intentional or just circumstantial. It is good to know how the process works in order to welcome our changes and growing experiences.
Much love to you in your transformational processes!
Sherry L. Cook