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It’s not as it appears…

How would you react if you were going along your daily routine and you looked up to greet someone and at first glance you can tell there is something wrong with them?   Maybe they are in a wheelchair or they are physically abnormal in some way.  Most of us would go about as normal as possible so as not to make anyone embarrassed, right?    So how about if you looked at someone and something was abnormal on their face that you had NEVER seen before?

I know the answer to that question.   I used to stand out of the crowd for fifty years. I was born with a physical birth defect on my right eye.  Even my doctors had not seen anything like it before.  Since it was my eye….there was no way to hide it, it was the first thing people saw.  I was stared at….a lot.  I was asked questions…a lot.  I was humiliated and embarrassed…a lot.  Growing up was emotionally painful…no dates and so much low self-esteem.

I fought daily to be “normal.’  To fit in and not be noticed by others. I loved it when people just ignored the way I looked.  I had to work twice as hard to get anything…job, license, respect etc.

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Two years ago, I underwent three surgeries to correct the “physical” deformity’s.   In eight months time I went from standing out ALL the time to finally blending in.

Immediately after the surgeries I went through a period of staring at people as I was walking around to see if they still looked at me funny.  I began to feel comfortable around people for the first time and I could actually look at others in the eye during a conversation.

Now…there is no stopping me…I am enjoying this new-found identity and self-confidence.  Nothing is going to stop me from anything!

My message is clear…People are not what they appear to be.  Never judge someone for the way they look because underneath they are made of the same stuff as you are.

I’ve had the opportunity to see both sides of the fence.  I now stand out for better things…like my art…my personality, my message for people who are wanting to make their lives happier.

Yes…It’s a pretty deep story I have here…but it’s worth telling…if it helps anyone.

Sherry L. Cook

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Daily Prompt: Standout

by michelle w.

When was the last time you really stood out in a crowd? Are you comfortable in that position, or do you wish you could fade into the woodwork?

9 comments on “It’s not as it appears…

  1. Baz Baron
    August 16, 2013

    Great blog, Sherry and truly inspirational. I like the clean crispness of your layout as well.

    • sherrylcook
      August 16, 2013

      Thank you! I changed to this layout 3 months ago and I am really enjoying it. Cheers! Sherry

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  3. dragonmommie
    August 15, 2013

    Thank you for your post… I included it on my related post list. Thanks for coming by my blog, too.

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  7. Snigdha
    August 15, 2013

    Amazing. Really inspirational! Thanks for sharing your profound experience. 🙂

    • sherrylcook
      August 15, 2013

      Thank you…and it still is amazing to me….the difference it makes in the way you are treated and how I feel about myself. Thanks for commenting!
      Sherry

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